Recruitment Time!!

We are half way through summer and it's time to be gearing up for recruitment again! Last year I had some posts about recruitment and I think everyone liked them.  So, I thought I'd put up the links to the posts from last year and see if there are any recruitment topics that ya'll think it would be beneficial to write about.

Recruitment Posts:

• Sorority Recruitment
• Rush Intro
• What Do I Wear?
• General Rush Tips
• Rush Party!
• Rules for Campus

So, again let me know if there is anything ya'll want to know about and I'll post it!  

Rush Party!

Now whether you call them parties or events here are some dos and don'ts to have a successful experience at your rush parties.

Do...

• Smile- everyone is hot and tired, but it will be such a relief to the members if you come in smiling.  
• Say how much you love their house- Only do this if you really do love it and you don't have to go into all the details.  A simple "I'm so glad I am back today. You are my favorite house." It might seem like you are putting yourself on the line, but it could pay off.  The chapter wants great girls who want to be there.  But don't go around telling every house that.  Someone will find out.
• Have some questions ready-  If you aren't automatically clicking with your rusher have some questions ready to ask them.  This way you can show you are prepared/ the rusher will love you. I loved it when people asked me questions because I could talk on and on about the answer.  Some ideas for questions are "What was your favorite philanthropy event? Favorite date party? What is your new member program like?" Just have a few ready for emergencies. 
• Go to the bathroom. Only if you really really have to go. You are missing out on party time and some girls do this when they don't think the house is worth it. So try not to and if you do be quick.
• Have fun! This is the way you can get to know about the house and make your decision. While it's not a completely accurate portrayal of the Greek system you will meet some great girls. Enjoy yourself and make sure you get your questions answered. 

Don't...

• Talk about other houses! If you are at ABC and you really like or dislike XYZ do not talk about with your rusher.  Even if you are saying that you don't like it. This is because they don't want a member who is going to be going around bad mouthing other houses during the school year.  And chances are that their roommate from last year is an XYZ and after the day is over ABC member is probably going to tell XYZ that you were saying bad things about them. 
• Talk about how you are a legacy.  For instance, if you are an ABC legacy and you are at the ABC party. There is absolutely no reason to tell them. They already know and I can guarantee you that every member in the house knows your name, high school, gpa, activities and anticipated major.  If said ABC legacy is at an XYZ party don't talk about it either because it will come off as a snub to them.  Plus, they already know what house you are legacy to.  Remember that being a legacy doesn't guarantee you a bid and sometimes you just might not like your legacy house.  Just keep an open mind and the sororities will keep an open mind about you.
• Tell them what other houses you have been invited back to. Good rushers will try and get the info from you, but don't fall for it.  They will ask questions like "So, how busy has your day been? Is this going to be a hard decision?"  Just respond with "Oh yes my day has been very busy." etc.  
• Be mean or rude. Even if you do not want to be at the house or you are pissed because you just got cut from you top choice.  Just put on your big girl panties and continue on with your day.  You might have a change of heart.  
• Listen to tent talk. This is the talk that all the PNMs do while waiting for parties or back in the dorms.  Make your own judgments about the houses and ignore everything else.  You don't know why anyone is drawing the conclusion they are, so just try and filter the information you are getting. 

Just remember that every girl you are talking to has been in the exact same place as you.  They know how hard it is and they all have some sympathy for you.  Just don't abuse it.  Keep an open mind and enjoy yourself.

General Rush Tips

** Apologises for not updating for a while. I just started a new job (yay!), so I've been super busy. But I'm back, so get excited! And welcome to all the new followers!**

Here are just some general tips dealing with different topics you will encounter during rush.  I'll go more into conversation in the next post, but I'll briefly give some pointers. Again, some of this might sound a little extreme or superficial, but it is just the way it is.  I've been involved in enough recruitments to see what everyone is doing and the girls that stand out in a good and bad way.

Appearance:

• Manicure and pedicure required. French is better for both because it will go with all your outfits and if something happens and you chip your polish it is less noticeable. 
• Make-up everyday. It doesn't need to be something completely out of the ordinary just nicely applied.
• Hair - This depends on your own hair type. You need to wear your hair in a way that will look good through an extremely hot and long day. For instance, I have naturally curly hair. When I went through rush I wore my hair curly every day because I knew if I straightened my hair, two parties in it would be a frizzy mess. Just figure out how you're going to manage the weather etc. before you get to campus.
• No perfume! It is just too hot and there are too many people.  Trust me. Perfume is a no no. 

Tote Bag Must Haves:

•  Flip flops - So you can switch out between your not so comfortable shoes between parties. Just remember to change back!
• Hand towel- Now this will probably sound gross, but it's so you can take care of any sweat issues. Trust me you will be so happy you have it. 
• Make up: Just for touch ups etc. You'll know what you need. 
• Water Bottle
• Cough drops- You might lose your voice and it's just nice to have some on hand.
• Breath mints
• Hand Sanitizer-  Beside the fact that you are going to be shaking a lot of people's hands and that can be germy. Hand sanitizer is great for making sweaty palms not so sweat anymore, so squirt some on before you head into a party.
• Hair stuff- bobby pins, hairspray etc. Whatever it is that you might need to do touch ups. 
• Small Mirror
• Random Emergency stuff- Safety pins, band aids, deodorant, Advil, contact solution, stain stick, wet wipes, lint roller, and anything else that will make you feel better knowing you have it. 

Conversation

• Start thinking of some events from this summer or high school that you can talk about.  For instance, what you did for the 4th of July, summer trip to Europe, Girls State, being President of your senior class etc.  Get it together not in a way that is rehearsed, but just so you're not just saying, "I went to Italy this summer. It was a lot of fun." Instead you can say, "I went to Italy this summer for my graduation present from my parents.  I had a wonderful time getting to go to all the different museums and going shopping.  I definitely want to go again."  This is better because you sound more interesting and you're giving your rusher topics she can ask you about ie: what was your favorite museum?, what did you buy? etc.  
• Clean up your facebook. This isn't really conversation, but whatever. Give your facebook a face lift. Make sure there aren't wild pictures or comments. Rushers WILL look at your facebook. I promise, so make sure it is classy. 

There are just a few little pointers and tips for ya! More to come soon!

Rush- What Do I Wear?!

Here are some examples I made of what would be appropriate to wear during Formal Recruitment. Now not every school has the same schedule or events, so make sure to check your school's schedule and adapt the days I've listed.  Some campuses are more "frills" leaning meaning everyone including members are a little bit dressier or they are "no frills" meaning things are more relaxed and could be categorized as informal formal recruitment.  (I won't get into the other meanings of frills or no frills. It's way too confusing and not really important for PNMs. If you want to know you can e-mail me.)  These outfits are definitely more geared towards a frills recruitment, which is essentially any large university south of the Mason Dixie line or in California.  You probably know whether your school's Greek system is competitive or what their trends are, so I'm sure you can judge how dressy it is. These examples are on the dressier end.

Day 1- Casual Day
Almost every rush will have one day that is casual. It is usually the 1st day sometimes the 2nd. There is usually some rush t-shirt that will be provided to wear or you'll wear your schools shirt.  The key to this day is to not mistake casual for sloppy.  Just because you don't have to wear heels doesn't mean you can just throw anything on.  Accessories are always important, but especially today. This example has pearls. Now for some it might seem weird to wear pearls with a t-shirt, but honey get used to it if your going to be in sorority. If you plan to wear tennis shoes they need to be almost new. No scuffs or dirt.

Casual Day by guiltybliss featuring Oasis accessories

Day 2 - Philanthropy
The 2nd day/round of recruitment really differs more than any other day at each campus.  Sometimes it will be the casual day because you will be making crafts etc for the sororities' philanthropy.  If not it gets a little bit dressier.  Wearing a casual dress is great with flats.  Again make sure you complete the outfit with accessories. Make-up doesn't need to be super elaborate.

Philanthropy by guiltybliss featuring Mystique sandals

Day 3- Skit Day
This is the round that things start to get dressier.  This is something you would wear if you had a ceremony to attend.  Heels are recommended. However, this is usually the day house tour occurs so you will be going up and down stairs and walking around.  You need to know how to walk in your heels well. If that's going to be a problem wedges are always a good alternative or dressy flats. Also, out of all the outfits your rushers will remember it will probably be this one because it's a longer party and things seem less crazy when on house tour in regards to having a "real" conversation.

Skit Day by guiltybliss featuring Paris Hilton shoes

Day 4- Pref Night

This is the last round and the dressiest.  Must wear a dress and heels.  Think along the lines of a cocktail dress.  Side note: you will not be talking to any boys during a recruitment party. (Granted they will likely be sitting across the street in the yard on a couch. But they are not important, so they don't count.)  Therefore, there is absolutely no reason to dress sexy for this round.  No one wants to see your whoo ha or your boobs.  Keep it classy.  

Pref Night by guiltybliss featuring Temperley London dresses

Now again all these looks can be adapted for your campus or style. It's just important to remember to dress comfortably-ish (lets face it... rush is so not comfortable. It's not fair to let you think it will be.), present yourself as put together, and express your own individual style within the dress code.

Next post will deal with general recruitment tips including appearance, what to bring in your tote, and conversation pointers.

Rush Intro

Now if you are reading this you probably already know what rush is, so I'm not going to go into a detailed explanation about the process or a long list of definitions.  This is going to act more as primer to preparing for rush.

A few definitions (official and some of my own):

• PNM - Potential New Member (someone going through rush)
• Bid- An invitation to join a sorority
• Rush - The p.c. term is recruitment but it's the same thing. 
• Rusher- A sorority member who is involved in rush. 
• Formal Recruitment- This is the time when all sororities are recruiting new members.
• Informal Recruitment- This is after Formal is over when some sororities that have open spaces still available can continue to extend bids. 
• Informal Formal- This is one of my own. This is a type of formal recruitment that is laid back. AKA No Frills.  This is usually the type of recruitment that smaller schools, non competitive Greek systems, and schools not in the south have.

So the thing about rush is it's organized chaos. I once heard someone describe it as a combination of speed dating and interviewing, which I think is accurate.  The other thing is that it is incredibly emotional. You're usually away from home for the first time and you are thrust into this super jam packed event.  Also, is the addition that you are in a sense being evaluated, which always kinda stinks.  And it's not really an accurate portrayal of what it's like to be in a sorority.  People aren't going to be waiting at the door singing and clapping every time you go to the house.

The great thing is that it's only a couple of days and being in sorority out ways the craziness it takes to get in. Also, if you know what to expect and prepare everything before hand it can be A LOT easier.  This is the part I want to help with to have you have the best recruitment you can.  Next post is What do I wear? out on the 19th!

Sorority Recruitment

 My Bid Day. I'm in the second row of black t-shirts with the big white necklace.

As the end of July approaches it makes me sad that I'm not going to be moving into the sorority house to get ready for Work Week then recruitment.  I have been obsessed with recruitment ever since I went through it. Every year I was a member I was a part of the recruitment team and have gone back to help after graduating.  So, I was thinking I could share some advice I've gathered over the years to those going through recruitment. Now this isn't going to be a guarantee you'll get into the house you want, but it's just helpful hints. And for those of you who are already members or Alums you can add your own tips to each section in the comments.

Every campus is different, so you'll have to use your judgment about what will work and won't. There will be 6 parts to this recruitment series:

• Rush Intro
• What to Wear
• General Tips
• Tip for Rush Parties
• Rules for when you get to campus.
• So, you're in... now what?

Next post will be Rush Intro on Saturday! So get excited and stay tuned!!